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Content writer, Speaker, and Creator of TheSocial-Commentary.Com who's passion and purpose is to share a message of light on the darkness life can sometimes bring. I am a soul writer who challenges your views with another perspective because seeing more of the picture can help you know where your soul stands. I welcome your comments and points of view because I am always learning too. My passion and purpose are social commentary advocacy. When we see the truth, most people do the right thing. Follow me and see if you agree. To see more and follow me, please check out my LinkedIn profile. That’s where you will see my presence the most. http://linkedin.com/in/bmelody320 #MelodysEyes #IWillHelpOne #YouMatter

The Community Of America

November 12, 2020

Purple is not a primary color, but rather a blend of red and blue, creating a beauty of it’s own. It is time for our country to do the same with the red and blue, and become the country we call the United States.

Online congratulatory posts are littered with fear, hate, and contempt comments that show the sad state of division. It is time to start seeing each other with compassion and unity that the premise of our country is supposed to be about. We cannot look at our neighbors with contempt and claim Patriotism or a love of Christ.

It is time we look past the red and blue and see the beauty of our blend. The election is over and we’ve done our part. Whether you are Republican or Democrat doesn’t matter anymore. All that matters is you are an American, and for the sake of our nation, we need to make the best of it and focus on what we can do to make our communities and our country a better place. Shine your soul light to the world and help others do the same. Lay down your anger and and help make our country a better place. We are all in this together.

#CompassionNotContempt #CommunitySupport #MelodysEyes

Stand United

November 5, 2020

Election Day has now passed by us, but the race for the conclusion is still on. As ballots are counted, Americans have boarded up businesses in preparations as though a hurricane were headed their way, while others have taken to the streets. Families have divided and neighbors have taken up against neighbor, seeing only through a lens of red or blue. Is is really the final count that makes us who we are?

Aren’t we the same neighbors who would show their support if a child were facing chemo for cancer, or giving condolences if they lost a loved one to Alzheimer’s? We are a sum of our vulnerabilities and our reactions to them. We are not the anger we are showing the world. We cannot claim Patriotism to our country unless we stand united. We are responsible for our own actions, not those of our leaders. Those of you who fear for our future if the opposite side wins, need to remember the other side is as well.

Don’t let your frustrations dictate your actions that you will regret when you finally see clearly again. We are the United States of America, but to be that, we need to be united regardless of who wins or losses this race, or we all lose. Like it or not, we are all in this together.

#CompassionNotContempt

Happy Birthday

August 24, 2020

I don’t think you could possibly understand just what we are missing. My heart aches for our absence today. This is the only way I can allow myself to reach out and yet I will probably never even know if you see it. That breaks my heart. Regardless of that, you will always be in my heart and no amount of anger or pain could ever change that for a child. But I have written this through tears because the fact is, I really don’t know if I truly am in yours. Have I ever really been? The answer will more than likely never be known.

I grew up knowing that I did not have that something special. Rather I was a serious burden. That belief shaped many of the mistakes I have made in my life. I am not trying to hurt you, I am trying to reach your soul. There are others who feel as I do and my soul hurts for them. The inner child who sits wounded year after year with no one to notice. She is in you too, and I see your pain. You need to see her. Understand that she is relevant and heal her wounds. The anger you hold inside is a scar you’ve never faced and you don’t even see it.

I wish I could share my climb with you, along with the struggles and the triumphs. I wanted to share what’s going on in my life. I wanted to be able to talk, really talk, about everything and I’m sure you need that too.

I hope you find something today that feeds your heart and gives you the peace every soul needs. I pray you find a way to heal and find your true path. You still have a God-given purpose.

Happy Birthday

The Shatter of Suicide

August 16, 2020

The pain you feel….

You feel the world would be better off without you. You feel unloved, inadequate and inferior. The pain you feel has brought the darkness over the light deep in your soul. You no longer realize it’s still there – but you are wrong.

Do you have a family you think doesn’t really care if you’re around? Friends you talk to now and then that just wouldn’t be able to understand if you tried to explain how you feel? Those are the ones you will scar. It won’t be a temporary grief that fades with time like you believe. That is what a life lived does at the end. Even when the grief remains, the heart draws towards the precious memories, as it should be.

Suicide leaves a different scar….

But suicide leaves a different scar. It sears like fire and the wound festers in the soul. They will question their own worth, haunted by why they didn’t see and save you and blame themselves for your choice. It can darken their lights and it can change them in who they feel they are and how they see life.

Those without enormous strength can crumble from the weight and become a skeleton of who they were. They follow you down the darkened path and their light dims from the pain.

Don’t let your light go out….

Don’t let your light go out. Find someone you see that has a sadness to them and help brighten their light and do it like your life depends on it. I promise you it will help light your own. Keep going and keep doing that and it will bring you to your true path.

Add a little (or a lot of) prayer for good measure. You have a purpose – you matter. You just need to find it. What if your help saves someone else and helps them find their purpose? I guarantee it’s a possibility.

Own It

July 27, 2020

Wisdom will tell you in order to get right, you have to reflect on the things you’ve done wrong. Know they are wrong and make a change. That requires owning it and it’s not always easy. It takes integrity and strength to really look. It has the reward of building character and strengthening your essence of right and wrong. This is true, not just for an individual, but for your community and your country.

Are you a Dad fighting about child support? Perhaps you should look at it another way. “What do they need?” That’s part of your responsibility. Own it.

There is a major conflict in the BLM and police reform. Why is it a battle? You have the greatest assets at your disposal to fix the problem. You have honorable black protesters trying to voice the changes that are a need. You have a majority of honorable police that have to be as frustrated about the problem as the civilians are. Take the best of each together and let them work out the changes that need to be made.

Create changes that require those who are the problem to own it. Make them face it by pulling them from the ranks, not to be shamed, but to teach. Find a way to show them. (Maybe American History X would be a good starting point) There is no stronger force against something than someone who has been on the other side. Lessons learned are a powerful tool to bring unity. Find a way to get there.

The public will be behind you if you can make that your focus. This is not a football game where you need a line of defense.

Protesters – you have a purpose and a side of it you need you need to voice. Honorable Police Officers – you have seen and actually understand their frustrations. If you do not, you should not be included. You cannot be truthful and say we see no problem here. You would either be blind to it, or part of it. Sit together and come up with changes together. You have it in you.

That’s how we change the world and make it a better place to live.

#MelodysEyes #CompassionNotContempt

A Matter Of Choice

July 20, 2020

We have a great opportunity here that we are wasting. Freedom to choose not to wear a mask vs those who feel it should be a nationwide mandate for safety concerns has been an ongoing conflict. It has become a political vs health battle. So how do we spin it into an opportunity? How can you get behind it if you are against it? Screaming health at you won’t work. Freedom of choice is too dominant in your position. What if your freedom of choice is the answer?

Everyone has a cause they believe in from pet adoption to Diabetes and Alzheimer’s Research. Shriner’s Hospital and Veteran organizations are great examples. What if we made our masks a message of that? You would be able to show everyone who sees you the cause you stand behind. Awareness and donations to your choice of support could go up as a result. Remember the success the bucket challenge had for ALS? It’s a win-win situation. We could take this conflict and turn it into something the whole world could take notice of and set an unprecedented example moving forward.

Shut-ins with high risk could become our new Betsy Rosses with a talent and a purpose that could even have the effect on them of building their immune systems. Where is the downside?

Compassion not contempt

The Unseen

July 5, 2020

I grew up with American pride in my country, pledging Allegiance to the Flag and singing the Star Spangled Banner with the words coming straight from my heart. Anything less seemed un-American. I was proud of my country. The 4th of July was always a big celebration when I was growing up. Home of the Free and the Brave.

But this year is different. We are the country with the most cases of a world-wide pandemic. Much of the country cancelled celebrations as a safety measure. It’s a virus that’s unseen until it causes suffering with the ability to kill. It has been successful at reaching around the globe. We are at the present time, banned from entering many other countries because of our status. Hard to take pride in us being the country with the most. We have people unwilling to even wear a mask to slow the spread. Do the people in other countries do the same? One should wonder.

Our second virus has been around since the beginning. It is one that is poisonous to the soul and it is denied until it is extreme. They don’t say with pride “I’m proud to be a racist!” even when it is in their hearts enough to be questioned by others. They tout it only when in each others presence, but they speak of it to us in their actions feeling somehow that is more acceptable then the words. So far they have been right.

We are in a nation where it has spread over the years like poison ivy, going unnoticed until one more infected member of a police force took it to the fatal extreme even while being recorded. Even he doesn’t yell “I’m a racist!” to those he faces. This is an injustice we all need to recognize. Once it’s seen it cannot be unseen and not acknowledging it is a nod of approval to the actions.

We could be a great nation. We have some incredible people who make up this country. The only way we are going to do that is to actually become United with Liberty and Justice for all as we pledge to. We have to start somewhere.

For the first time in my life, today makes me sad, not proud.

For Our Protection

July 3, 2020

As a high risk member of our community, I have just started venturing outside of our home. It’s a risky thing. I use a mask to protect those I come in contact with (along with social-distancing, just in case I am an asymptomatic carrier) because whether you believe it or not, it is still being spread.

But I will be mindful of places where people are not wearing masks to protect me. I will not go there a second time until guidelines suggest I no longer need to be protected from you.

You want to resume a somewhat normal life, but you need to understand, we do as well. It’s not about politics. It’s about not spreading a virus that has the power to kill. When you choose not to wear a mask, you are not saying “I am not afraid of this virus!”, you are in fact saying “It does not matter to me if I give it to you”. If you feel that way, whether I want to be or not, I cannot be in your presence. That infringes on my rights. You are protecting me, not just yourself.

Please, we want to resume grocery shopping, going to the laundromat, and worshiping at church. If too many of you are not wearing masks, we are more at risk than we should be and then we have to stay home and that’s not fair, especially if we really need to go.

Ask yourself, if you needed surgery right now, would you be comfortable with those in the operating room NOT wearing masks? Please stop and think about it and do what you know is right.

Compassion not contempt

Happy Birthday Dad

June 26, 2020

If I Could talk to you today……………………….

I would tell you I didn’t get enough time with you. We never got a chance to just sit down and really talk about the important things. I know you loved me, I don’t think I ever questioned that. I always knew. You were a humble man, and simply a farm boy at heart. I know the things you sacrificed for me. You were the reason I saw pride in the Blue-Collar worker you were. I am proud of the example you set of hard work. You always did. You showed me the meaning of responsibility.

But there are so many things in my life I would have loved to have talked to you about. It would have been great to get your advice on a lot of things. I would have asked you about what lessons you learned from mistakes we’ve all made in life.

Distance put a hardship on that and I missed the ability to spend time with you. I lost you before the Alzheimer’s set in. I lost you when you lost your hearing and phone conversations were frustrating to us both. I missed you then. I didn’t get to come see you in your final days and I will regret that the rest of my life. You did matter to me.

I hope I make you proud. I have taken wrong roads in the journey of my life and had to climb some serious mountains to keep going, and I still am. I promise you, I may pause, but I will never quit. I know my purpose in life. Maybe yours was to have children that can help make the world a little bit better. We are a persistent bunch! We have all struggled through life’s challenges and have come out stronger, just as you did.

Everyone who knew “Frenchy” knew he had a good heart. That is the legacy I hope to carry forward for you. I love you Dad, very much! If you ever want to show me you’re around, feel free because your love is always with me anyway. There came a time I needed to hear it from you, and you knew. “Just remember one thing kid. I love you”. I remember Dad. I always will.

Happy Birthday Dad!

Message To The President

June 14, 2020

I thought this message was worth sharing. I hope you do as well.

Sir,

I am aware, as America is, that today is your birthday. My wish for you, and for all of us, is that you take a break from everyone and spend some time alone with God. Did that Bible in your hand have meaning to you or was it really just a prop? You need time to disconnect with the world, however long it takes.

You have power. You have shown us that very clearly. What you chose to do with it should simply be a matter of doing what your heart knows is the right thing. We all need that in our soul.

You get plenty of hate from our country I’m sure, but you also have a hefty base that would follow you blindly to the edge of a cliff. Think of the impact you could have if you spoke only to make our nation a real United States! We are not united and have not been in a long time, if ever.

Please, you are our leader and what you say and do really does matter. I beg of you to take that pause and I will post this everywhere I can and hope that it gets shared and goes viral. Just maybe, deep down, most of us feel this way.

James chapters 2 & 3

Happy Birthday

Susan Ascott (pen name)