The Sins of Our Forefathers

I watched the movie The Help recently and the movie gave me some intense feelings – first of anger that made me want to step back in time and make a stand myself. It was soul-wrenching to watch. But as a white woman myself, it also brought me a sense of shame. How could someone treat other people that way?! How could they see themselves as a superior race?! I don’t understand how anyone could look into the eyes of someone else, hear what they have to say, and decide what you think of them based solely on the color of their skin. It truly boggles my mind!

How could their heart, their character, and their integrity not matter?! So many incredible people were surely lost without the opportunity to shine their light for others. No one has the right to take away someone’s personal power based on the color of their skin.

The wounds of a bully

Upon reflection I wonder about who the first person was, that decided (yes, it was a decision) that another’s skin color made them less of a soul. The wound they must have been carrying that made them feel inferior to the character of the person standing in front of them, led to the words of a bully.

Contempt for oneself brings it spilling onto others. If only they understood the evil their pain was giving birth to – and it would never truly make them feel superior, no matter how much they tried. Healing doesn’t come from the outside – it can only be done from looking within.

To those who truly believe their value is above another’s, you need to look inside. It is a sore that needs attention – even if it was seeded generations ago. For no matter what cruelty your words and actions dish out – it will not erase what’s searing on the inside. It only serves to intensify it.

Look, listen and reflect

Those who trigger that emotion in you are the ones you need to understand. Listen…and then reflect on your why. Perhaps you will learn something about yourself; if you have the courage to look and be honestly vulnerable with yourself.

I can’t change what injustices have been done. I can only attempt to understand and help shed a light on the chain that still has a hold on a portion of our humanity.

For the beautiful souls

For those whose futures were challenged because of it, you have my respect for the strength and courage your ancestors had in order to survive and stand up and be heard. For those who still face that mindset from others, you have my deepest apologies. Be the best you that you can be because there are many who see your character, integrity and strength. Those with bad behavior reflect on themselves, not you. Don’t give them the power to dim your light. Shine it bright for all to see.

Your decision

For those of you who identify with being white, you cannot be indifferent to it. At some point in your life you will need to decide whether to speak up against it. When that time happens – you will be deciding whether you are okay with your silence being the voice of condoning it. It would be wiser to examine your thoughts and decide now if you have that wound, even if it’s not fresh enough to acknowledge it’s even there. I urge you to watch the movie or read the book. It cannot help but impact your soul.

The healing world

The world is healing, despite all the anguish and anger spilling out from those who haven’t. Are you going to be on the side of the light or the darkness?

We are all in this together and we are each responsible for our part. It is up to us how much we value character and integrity – both from inside ourselves and those around us.

Where do you stand? Do you have the courage to shine your light? Only you can decide.

Compassion not contempt.

Written by Melody Belliveau


3 thoughts on “The Sins of Our Forefathers

  1. What a beautiful 30,000 foot view you paint Melody of ways to be … and ways not to be. I kept asking myself as I was reading “which way will I choose?” I have taken a stand … and the ‘hits’ that come from those who do not understand what you have shared … not yet that is. We can keep the space ‘open’ for whenever those who do begin to look within, so they can grow into. We must ‘keep the door open’ for them. Thank you for this wonderful read.

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  2. What a beautiful 30,000 foot view you paint Melody of ways to be … and ways not to be. I kept asking myself as I was reading “which way will I choose?” I have taken a stand … and the ‘hits’ that come from those who do not understand what you have shared … not yet that is. We can keep the space ‘open’ for whenever those who do begin to look within, so they can grow into. We must ‘keep the door open’ for them. Thank you for this wonderful read.

    Liked by 1 person

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